Sam javed – The Hypnotist
These are the rules you must follow if you are to get the quickest and most positive response from the subconscious mind.
1. USE THE PRESENT TENSE
Always form the idea as if it were already an accomplished fact: “YOU ARE CALM AND RELAXED”. The only exception to this rule is when you are dealing with a physical condition such as a broken leg. The progressive form of the present tense is used to by-pass the critical factor of the subconscious mind: “EACH DAY YOUR LEG GROWS STRONGER AND HEALTHIER”. If you were to say: “YOUR LEG IS STRONG AND HEALTHY”, the conscious mind will create resistance: “Then why am I wearing a cast?”. Even specific suggestions for future behaviour must be given in the present tense. For example: “Next Thursday when you stand to speak at the company dinner, you are calm and poised and relaxed”.
Never refer to past conditions in your affirmations. For example: “You are more tolerant and understanding of your family than you used to be”. This brings a dual image to the surface, the image of how one has been and how one wishes to be. Naturally the image of how one has been is stronger than the image of how one wishes to be.
An affirmation phrased in the future tense becomes just another “New Year’s Resolution”, easy to forget and not to be taken seriously. The future tense indeterminate. “Someday” cannot create a mental picture of one’s having already solved the problem. “Soon” does not convey the picture of the achieved goal.
Right: YOU ARE ……… IT IS ……… YOU FEEL ……..
Wrong: YOU WILL ………IT WILL BE ……… YOU ARE GOING TO ……..
2. BE POSITIVE
Eliminate every possible negative word. DO NOT mention what the person is trying to move away from; rather, create a word picture of what he or she wishes to move toward. If you suggest, “You are not self-conscious with people”, you release the energy connected with feeling self-conscious and the memory of past experiences in which the person suffered from the self-conscious feelings. Instead suggest, “You like people. You enjoy the company of people. When you are with new people, YOU ARE CALM AND
POISED AND RELAXED.” Always use the positive antonym to create a picture of the person acting, feeling and behaving in the way he or she wishes to.
Right: YOU SLEEP DEEPLY, SOUNDLY, ALL NIGHT LONG
Wrong: YOU DO DOT TOSS AND TURN FOR HOURS BEFORE GOING TO SLEEP
Right: YOU ARE POISED AND CALM AND IN COMPLETE CONTROL OF ANY SITUATION
Wrong: YOU ARE NOT AFRAID, YOU ARE NOT NERVOUS, YOU ARE NOT SELF-CONSCIOUS.
Right: YOU ARE FILLED WITH ENERGY
Wrong: YOU ARE NOT TIRED ALL THE TIME
3. BE SPECIFIC
Choose ONE specific idea for improvement and CONFINE your suggestion to that one area of improvement. DO NOT give suggestions for 2 or 3 problems all at the same time. You can work on more than one problem by alternating your suggestions, but don’t hypnotise someone to get rid of a tension headache and then suggest that he/she is filled with confidence, sleeps perfectly every night, wears a size 12 dress, expresses love to the children and has given up cigarettes. You should choose one area in which the person wishes to change and work on that until some change is felt. Then move to the next goal. You may get results from your first suggestion; however, be prepared to use the same suggestion repeatedly before moving on to the next goal.
4. BE DETAILED
Analyse the goal and structure of the suggestion to cover every detail of the changed behaviour or attitude.
Right: You like people. You enjoy being with people. People are aware that you like them and they return the feeling. You especially enjoy talking to people. When you stand before an audience, you are filled with friendly feelings for them. You want to do things for them. You feel a wave of friendship and understanding flowing from every member of the audience. As you begin speaking, your lips are flexible, your mouth is moist, you breath deeply from the diaphragm. Your legs are strong beneath you. Your hands are poised and calm. The gestures flow spontaneously and freely. You have the undivided attention of the audience and it makes you feel secure and confident. There is a smile in your heart which comes to your lips at the proper times. You speak easily,
freely and confidently. You speak with a full release of your knowledge, skill and ability. When your talk is concluded, you are warm and gratified by the applause.
Wrong: You will be an excellent public speaker
Right: You are enthusiastic about your product and your customers respond to your positive feelings.
Wrong: Every day in every way you are growing better and better
5. BE SIMPLE
Speak to the subconscious as if it were a bright 9 year old child. Avoid “literary expression”. This is not a thesis you are writing for a professor to score. Avoid long technical words and phrases and psychological and metaphysical terms. Simple words have the greatest energy. Ernest Hemingway became famous for the simplicity of his writing and yet it has tremendous power.
6. USE EXCITING AND EMOTIONAL WORDS
Be sure to get excitement and feeling into your affirmations. The subconscious is the feeling mind. Use words such as: VIBRANT, SPARKLING, THRILLING, WONDERFUL, POWERFUL, RADIANT, LOVING, GENEROUS, ABUNDANT, EXCITING, DELIGHTFUL, BEAUTIFUL, JOYOUS.
7. AFFIRM ACTIVITY
Let the suggestion describe an action, not an ability.
Right: Your family and your friends co-operate with you because you are interested in their welfare.
Wrong: You have the ability to understand others
If the desired result is one which can be measured, such as body weight, a gold score, a bowling score, suggest the EXACT improvement the person wishes to achieve. Don’t try to fool the subconscious by suggesting he or she will continue to lose weight until 50 kgs has been reached when the ideal weight is 60 kgs. The person then thinks that if only
partial success is achieved the goal will still be reached. But the subconscious is not fooled. Tell the subconscious exactly what is wanted.
9. BE REALISTIC
There are circumstances where it is wrong to try to suggest perfection. “You always organise your time perfectly” is an impossible goal for a mother of 3 lively children. It would be difficult to visualise and could lead to frustration. “You are always enthusiastic” is a poor suggestion. Would one want to be enthusiastic at a funeral?
Structure your suggestions to change the person and his/her attitudes and actions. Don’t suggest a change in others. As changes occur, others associated with the client change.
Wrong: Your children always respect and obey you.
Right: You take a sincere and enthusiastic interest in your children, their activities and their friends, and you understand their point of view. You express love and approval of your children. It is easy for you to express your love for them.
11. SYMBOLISE THE SUGGESTION
After you have written your suggestion following these rules, find a word or short phrase which symbolizes the feeling and content. Finding the correct symbol is extremely important. In the next lesson, which deals with the technique of USING auto-suggestion, you will learn that the symbol is vitally important. If your suggestion is for overcoming feelings of inferiority, your symbol might be ‘DYNAMIC SELF-CONFIDENCE” or ‘POISE” or “BERT NEWTON”.
If you are overcoming insomnia your symbol might be “EASY SLUMBER” or “SLEEP LIKE A BABY” or “SUMMER HOLIDAY HOUSE” or “MOUNTAIN AIR”.
If the goal is to lose weight you might use “SIZE 10” or “SLENDER AND SEXY” or “SWEET SIXTEEN”.
Try to find a symbol which calls to mind a strong feeling or a vivid picture. The symbol doesn’t have to mean a thing to anyone but the person it is created for. It is personal, and what provokes a strong surge of feeling and energy or creates a picture for that person is the symbol you should use.